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When I first heard rumors about the French transit strikes, I didn’t think much about them. After all, our vacation was weeks away. Surely I could keep those reservations for our dream trip to Paris.
Our Dilemma(s)
Our first stop was Germany to see the Christmas markets and enjoy a peaceful holiday. Our plan was to depart Leipzig the next week and spend a few days at a vacation rental in a quiet Parisian suburb, complete with a kitchenette and a washing machine. We would be near museums but far from New Year’s festivities. However, as the strike continued, it disrupted public transportation throughout Paris. Watching from Germany, we realized that if we wanted to visit the Louvre, the Eiffel Tower, or any of the other places we had planned, we would be dependent on long taxi rides and substantial walks across town with four kids in tow.
You know how everyone says to visit Germany at Christmastime because it’s magical? Yep, it’s amazing. Photo © Christy Nicholson.
A few days before our train from Leipzig to Paris, we started looking up other lodgings, hoping we could find a last-minute place to stay within easy walking distance of things to do. And then, breaking news hit — every train from Germany to France got canceled. After much discussion with a harried-looking ticket officer, we finally accepted the truth. We were stuck in Germany. There was no way to get to France.
Be Flexible
I’m a perfectionist, but the more I travel, the more I have to put those stringent expectations aside. It’s taken me a long time to learn this. It didn’t sink in when my parents’ car transmission went out at Disney World, or when we got stuck in a spring break snowstorm on our way to the beach and had to walk through a foot of snow to find food.
But over the years, I’ve pieced together enough wisdom to know that staying flexible is the best way to keep unexpected events from ruining a great time.
While we were stuck in Germany, we turned to the whiteboard (a.k.a. glossy kitchen cabinets from IKEA) and brainstormed family ideas. We couldn’t get to France, but what else could we do? We talked about all the things we could see with extra time in Germany. We brainstormed other countries to see as a family. And you know what? It worked. Every person set aside their dreams of Paris and got to planning something new.
Involve Everyone
The cooperative spirit was so contagious that even the youngest travelers let go of their Eiffel Tower heartbreak and looked forward to a different adventure. We made long lists of possibilities and listened to every idea. Would we shop flea markets in Leipzig? Go to Spain? Tour the medieval town of Rothenburg? The little ones chimed in with opinions on visiting castles and touring the Lego factory in Denmark.
Practical concerns were a big part of our decision-making process. We looked at which places were both affordable and easily accessible. (The Lego factory was closed to the public, and Spain was just too far.) We looked at everyone’s ideas and figured out which ones were possible AND most popular with our entire group. Adapting quickly meant we could face our new plan with hope rather than panic.
See Changes As Opportunities
We had spent months planning an amazing trip to Paris that would hit everyone’s sightseeing priorities. When that was canceled, we had an important choice: we could see the cancellation as a curse or a gift. As we changed our plans, we decided to focus on what experiences we could gain, not on what we had lost. Thanks to the transit strikes, we now had the chance to dream up other options.
Ultimately, we decided on a family trip to England. The quick change in plans allowed our kids to make memories of watching the changing of the guard and crowding our family into the tiny upstairs room of a pub. I had always dreamed of seeing more of England, and our extended trip gave us time to travel to Dover and explore the coast. We didn’t stand in Trafalgar Square and complain that it wasn’t the Arc de Triomphe; instead, we celebrated all the bonuses of our new itinerary.
As our family sat in the pub, all ten of us gazing at Windsor Castle across the street, I realized that in losing our Paris vacation we found many other magical moments. Photo © Christy Nicholson.
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Take Action
When we saw our vacation plans falling apart, we knew bold decisions would be key. I have to give a shoutout to my family members, who spent several late nights looking at our travel plans and figuring out how to make them work. They spent countless hours on the phone, on travel sites, and down at the train station to find answers and options.
Meanwhile, I got to work contacting our vacation rental in Versailles. With our trip to Paris due to begin in two days, I had less than 24 hours to cancel our reservation before we would be charged the entire fee for a week’s stay. I canceled on the booking site and then e‑mailed the rental directly to apologize, explain, and beg for mercy with the 50% cancellation fee.
Our planned train to Paris became a train to Frankfurt plus a plane to London. Bonus: With our last-minute booking, we somehow scored free business class upgrades and gourmet meals on the plane. Photo © Paul Nicholson.
We were lucky with our Europe trip — we had the options and resources to figure out a new plan. First, though, we had to let go of our efforts to change reality. As the obstacles piled up, we had to accept that this particular trip to France wasn’t meant to be.
Of course, sometimes frustrating circumstances can’t be changed or reinvented. When my oldest son was a baby, we visited family in Austria and Italy. An overnight train ride between Venice and Vienna seemed like a good use of time until I faced the reality of 12 hours on a train with a one-year-old. We didn’t have beds, and my son didn’t sleep. Plus, thanks to a volcanic eruption that grounded every plane fight, the train was teeming with people. The six adults in our compartment had to lock the door to keep more people from pouring into our seats. We were tired, hot, and cranky. And there was no way to escape.
My husband tells me this is Venice. I don’t remember, because I stayed awake all night on a train with my one-year-old. Photo © Paul Nicholson.
Sometimes all we can do is accept the situation and attempt to move on, whether we’re facing sickness, canceled flights, or natural disasters. (And let’s be honest — I was in Europe. With a baby. I was exhausted, but I wasn’t suffering.)
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How to Prepare In Advance
While attitude plays a role in rescuing a trip gone sideways, preparing ahead of time also makes a huge difference. We keep our family ready for anything with these travel tips:
Flexible Arrangements
Look for hotels and airlines with reputations for stellar customer service. One hotel chain earned our family’s loyalty when they gave us a free hotel room after a rescheduled flight. We continue to use them due to their generous cancellation policy.
Back-up Plans
Keep a list of those long-shot sightseeing wishes. When plans change, the new itinerary may have room for that awesome museum that was closed or the town that was too far away.
Savvy Packing
Plan for delays, stains, accidents, and fevers with a packing list. Adding a few small emergency items to the family suitcase will smooth out a host of difficulties.
A Sense of Humor
Bring a willingness to find laughter in any situation. Staying lighthearted can make almost anything better — even washing clothes in the hotel bathtub. (Remember that Parisian rental with a washing machine? That got canceled, too.)
We never made it to France, but we could see the French coast from the top of a hill in Dover, England. Photo © Paul Nicholson.
With travel comes misadventure, but that doesn’t have to take away the fun. With humor and grace, the experience can be enjoyable — or at least bearable. And remember, it will probably make a fantastic travel story someday.
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Oh my God! I’m with ya gal. I really have been in a couple of horrible situations where everything went wrong during family vacation, including our passports getting stolen in one! Right as you say, flexibility is the key and also trying to stay calm and think the next course of action. Its awesome that you managed to visit England instead. Free business class upgrade on the plane? Wow… That’s a sliver of good thing in the midst of chaos. Traveling with a 1yr old overnight? Wow… I flew with my 1yr old on an almost 24hrs flight journey incl transit. Chaos indeed… But then, precious memories too… We survive it all momma…
Your passports got stolen?! Now THAT is truly an adventure …
Oh my god! What a disappointment. But I love how you were able to turn it around. I am also one of those people preaching that you should be flexible with your travel plans but, to be honest, I tend to have a hard time being able to change my plans. In your case, it was sooo worth it.
It’s so tough to be flexible!
We top like to have everything planned. But like you have had to adapt when something caused our plans to derail. It is good when you can still keep a positive attitude and find something to enjoy in your changed plans. It was great that you could get some help from family members to get plans changed. Being cut off from good communication makes the stress of changes worse. I am sure in retrospect you found many points of humour.
Thanks for sharing amazing post.….….….
These are great tips and I am happy to know that you managed to “save” your family vacation. I love when you say that we must learn to see changes as opportunities. This is not just applicable to traveling but I guess this applies to almost all aspects in our life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🙂
I want that cup. Indeed Germany is magical during Christmas. I have not experienced it myself but I have read a lot about it and seen pictures of my friends.
Most importantly, this is a very encouraging and unique post. I am glad to know tips to save vacation. Honestly, its quite hard to cancel plans or see them go haywire but kudos to you for turning it around. I am sure it was a great learning for the young members of the family. This is a such a positive attitude and its even better that you took it all with humor. Be flexible and take bold decisions… thats the mantra.
I agreed. Being flexible to your itinerary and to yourself is very important during traveling. That way you have more peace of mind when you must change plans. I also like how you involved the kids in the process of finding alternatives for your canceled trip to Paris. After all, it’s a family vacation, it’s for everyone in the family to enjoy.
Great list! It is always disappointing when things don’t go as planned on a trip, but I have learned to adjust and go with the flow rather than letting the trip go to waste. I have found that being flexible is one of the best things you can do. That way you are always open to new opportunities. Life doesn’t always go as planned, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make the most of it.
OMG, I can understand totally when everything goes wrong on family vacation and how to save it and protecting the moods of all. I also underwent same thing when I was in school and we still tried to manage our vacations happily by deviating from our plans. I agree, sometimes deviation of plans is blessing in disguise and we explore some new place. Good to know you planned your England vacation and hopefully you will soon visit Paris too.
Accepting the change and converting it into laughable memories is the only way to tackle these problems. Sure it can be annoying but when you look at the positive, you realize it isn’t so bad. I have had my share of changes — mostly with domestic trips but as you said, I have found that these present opportunities that you might have not considered earlier. It is good you have penned them down as tips and advice.